On Wednesday night, my dad, Brian Parker, passed away peacefully.
It's very difficult to know what to write in this blog post. He was my father, friend, helper and the person, who more than anyone else, made me who I am today (well, it had to be someone's fault).
Some of my earliest memories are of him building a balsa and tissue aeroplane. He would also help me with my more complicated Lego - there is a photo somewhere of him putting together an oil rig I'd received for Christmas.
Dad supplied me with my first train - a Tri-ang 3F he'd repainted into maroon with a golden dome. He didn't think I'd like a plain black engine! Sadly, in a fit of realism, I repainted it black again years later.
I'd always been a kid who enjoyed making things, and one day, he presented me with a bag of balswood offcuts, a knife, and some glue. And that was it, I was allowed to get on with it, hacking away at the wood. The idea was that I would learn about sharp knives, and to be fair, I still have a full complement of fingers.
There were also many plastic kits from his stash that I was allowed to build, not always brilliantly, but I learned a lot in the process. Some of those have become collectables, but this didn't bother him. I was taught that plastic kits were for building.
Dad had an interest in aircraft, and assisted at the local air cadets. Somehow, this involved us in visiting an air museum, where I saw a Sunderland Flying Boat. I was smitten by this, and so a few months later, I came downstairs to find he had assembled and painted an Airfix model. Sadly, this didn't survive, but I still have a couple of figures from it. I've promised myself that I will one day build another, and include these people in it.
Years later, he accompanied me to the Leamington & Warwick MRS every Thursday evening. Trains were my thing, but he was happy to come along and help out. On our first night, he saw track being made using SMP parts. "I'll never be able to do that.", he said. Three layouts later, he seemed to have the hang of it.
Of course, we exhibited layouts together for many years. Dad never learned to drive, so this side fell to me, but he was always happy with his supporting role. I made the rolling stock, he, the buildings and boats. We trekked up and down the country with Melbridge, Flockburgh and Hellingly and really enjoyed ourselves.
We also visited a lot of shows. Much of this was by train, and we enjoyed many lovely days out.
Back at the L&WMRS, he took on organising the annual show for several years, successful events that helped boost club funds, leading to the success the club undoubtedly is now - something Brian was always very proud of.
There is so much I should write, and maybe I'll continue with a few stories in the future, but right now, I'm not in the best place to put together a complete history.
Suffice to say, I'm going to miss my Dad. Of course, like any good modeller, he has bequeathed a pile of unbuilt kits, and half finished project to add to my own collection.
Thanks for everything Dad.
Note: There will be a brief hiatus in blogging for a few days.


I’m so very sorry for your loss, Phil your Dad sounds like a fine man. Sending you and your family my deepest condolences.
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Deepest condolences Phil. You’re in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteDuncan
Very sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences and prayers to you abd your family
ReplyDeletePhil
ReplyDeleteOn a few occasions I met your father (in your company) at exhibitions when I was an exhibitor. It struck me at those times that the two of you much enjoyed being exhibition visitors together.
What you have written above is an elegantly simple but effective tribute to your father – a statement of what he gave to you, and how much you appreciated it.
Christopher Payne
Sorry to hear about your loss Phil. Deepest sympathy to you, your family and friends.
ReplyDeleteThat was a lovely heart felt obituary.
George
So very sorry Phil for your loss.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear this and take as long as you need.
ReplyDeleteVery sorry to hear this news Phil. Our thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. That’s a lovely photo of your dad in a very special setting; a day to remember, I hope, doubtless along with many others.
ReplyDeleteChris TGG
My sympathy to you Phil,many happy memories to look back on.
ReplyDeleteI'm very sorry to hear this.
ReplyDeleteI did meet your dad, just once, operating your Hellingly Hospital layout, many many years ago and I can still remember chatting to him (you must have been on a break). He came across as a decent fellow.
Hi Phil, sorry to hear about your Dad. It's always been obvious how much he has meant to you and your modelling. Please take to time you need, we will still be here.
ReplyDeleteHi Phil, So sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. The pain of loss will slowly be replaced with the memories of happy times and you will carry on with all that he taught you. Be strong and be proud of him. Woody
ReplyDeleteCondolences to you and your family. A lovely father and son bond you've describe.
ReplyDeleteG'day Phil,
ReplyDeleteMy condolences to both you and your family.
I feel for your loss.
I too lost my Father/Closest Friend coming up to a decade ago.
I hope this helps, when I think of my Dad, it t always has brought a smile to my face along with a chuckle.
Cheers Woz
So sorry to hear this news Phil - my condolences to you and your family. That's a great obituary. He was clearly the best Dad and a wonderful man.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear of your news Phil, take care. Dave.
ReplyDeleteCondolences to you and your family. Jon P.
ReplyDeleteSo very sorry for your loss. We know parents will never be around forever, but are never really prepared for when they go. It leaves a huge hole.
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